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We strongly recommend arriving during the first hour!

Most guys don't linger at the party too long after having an orgasm. Most guys are good for one, maybe two loads before we need to recharge, so if you're looking to enjoy the best of the party come right at the beginning or shortly thereafter.  We can't stress it enough. 

 

Party Rules

Undress Code:

  • At our Midtown location you may wear regular underwear, a jockstrap, sex gear (think: leather vest, chaps, nipple clamps, etc.) or go fully naked.

  • No shirts or pants allowed. This includes tank tops, undershirts and long underwear.

  • On an exception basis, i.e. you need to get permission, we will allow you to keep a shirt on if you're easily cold or it's really cold out, or you have conspicuous scars, offensive tattoos or something else you feel would attract unwanted attention or that would disturb the party. Simply let us know you wish to keep a shirt on when you're getting undressed, please. If you want to keep a shirt on simply because you're modest or embarrassed of your body, we're gonna say no. If you're not comfortable showing your body, others will not be comfortable around you so it's a lose-lose situation; think positively and love thyself above all always.

  • You must keep some type of footwear on your feet for your safety. You're welcome to bring flip-flops and check your shoes in your bag. Walking around barefoot or in your socks is not allowed.

Before You Arrive:

  • Reminder: We can only accept cash.

  • We provide regular-sized condoms and water-based lube. We do our best to stock large-sized condoms but can't guarantee their availability, so if you're well-hung and a top consider bringing a few with you. Thank you for your understanding.

  • Come showered and wear deodorant. Although you might find your own scent nice, not everyone does.

  • Please take care of all personal hygiene issues (like douching / doing an enema) before arriving at the party. Anyone that plans to bottom at the party should be clean, as messes put a real damper on the party atmosphere. If you don't know how to clean the inside of your ass because you're new to bottoming, ask a good friend what to do or click here for an illustrated guide. Please do not wait until arriving at the party to do this.

  • Please avoid strong-smelling colognes / perfumes.

  • Toys are discouraged, as cleaning, carrying them around and keeping them clean are all a pain for you. If you do need a toy to get off, be selective and leave the giant dildos at home. And remember, any toys you bring must be carried around on your person or in a clear plastic bag!

 

Checking In

  • You MUST check your cell phone and any other electronic devices capable of making calls, sending texts or taking pictures or video. NO EXCEPTIONS. If it lights up, check it, as the light distracts other people. Photography is strictly forbidden at all times at the party address. Please put your cell phone on vibrate before checking it. Cell phones can be used in the check-in/check-out area for exchanging numbers. Men that bring their cell phones inside the play space will be asked to leave.

  • BACKPACKS AND OTHER BAGS - REGARDLESS OF THEIR SIZE - ARE NOT ALLOWED INSIDE THE PLAY SPACE. You must check all bags in the clothes / bag check area and keep anything you need with you such as your own brand of lube, condoms or poppers in your sock, your hands or a transparent plastic bag, please.

  • You'll put your clothes on a hanger. We don't use plastic trash bags at this party, but you're welcome to bring your own.

  • Please bring only the basics to the party and try not to revisit the clothes check multiple times during the party.

  • If you're leaving your underwear on and think you'll take it off later, skip a step and just go naked from the start as your underwear could get dirty if you set it down somewhere or you let it fall to the floor.

  • The clothes check room/area is secure and is attended by the staff throughout the party. You should put your wallet, keys, cell phone, etc. in your pockets or bag before we hang your items, just as you would at a normal coat check. If you have a specific concern, please ask us.

 

At the Party

  • Soft drinks and water are complimentary, as are chocolates and mints. Please help yourself and dispose of any trash in trashcans.

  • Watersports (piss play), fisting and scat are not allowed.

  • Overly aggressive behavior towards one or more individuals ruins the party for other members and will not be tolerated. Alert the host if anyone is bothering you.

  • Please be careful not to pile onto another couple or group unless they seem interested in having you join them or are giving signals that they're interested. Although it is a sex party, not everyone is looking for a giant cluster fuck, though this definitely does happen. Use your best judgment.

  • DO NOT ENCIRCLE, HOVER OVER, TOUCH WITHOUT PERMISSION OR IN ANY OTHER WAY INVADE THE SPACE OF TWO OR MORE GUYS WHO ARE HOOKING UP WITH EACH OTHER NEAR YOU.  You are free to look, watch and enjoy with your eyes an environment full of guys enjoying themselves and each other; but if you wish to engage anyone physically or in an explicitly sexual way you need to  have their consent. So, what constitutes consent?

    • If a guy asks or tells you to do something to him, you have his consent.

    • If you ask or instruct a guy to do something to you, he has your consent.

    • Once you're hooking up and touching, kissing, licking or sucking each other or one of you is engaged in fucking the other's ass, it is your responsibility to alert your partner if something isn't working or you no longer wish to be engaged. Be polite but be clear, and do not tolerate being ignored. If he does not listen and respond to your request or instruction to stop doing something within a moment or two, get his attention more forcefully so that he understands what you are telling him.

    • If you need assistance dealing with a problem with another guest, raise your voice so that others hear you and have them alert the host or another staff member.

    • Do not escalate the situation any further on your own! Instead, please allow us to resolve the situation right away. We ask this so that (1) we may be aware of any misbehavior or worse and (2) so that guests who have not respected the rules of consent or broken another important rule may receive a warning or be ejected or banned from the parties. 

  • Please be respectful of other guests and see one of the hosts if you have concerns.

 

Additional Rules

  • NO DRUGS; NO ALCOHOL; NO SMOKING; NO RUDE / AGGRESSIVE / DRUNKEN BEHAVIOR; NO CHEWING GUM. We do not serve alcohol and do not allow BYOB at our events. Men that appear too intoxicated to play nicely will be politely asked to leave and either join us another day or not return.

  • Poppers are okay, just don't overdo it; we've had people pass out because of popper use. NEVER use poppers if you've taken Viagra, Levitra, Cialis or similar erection-enhancing pills or if you are on blood-pressure medication; the combination can cause cardiac arrest!

  • PROPER ID / EMERGENCIES. You need to bring physical photo ID if you look close to 18 but everyone ought to have something identifying them among their belongings in the event of an emergency. Please keep ID in your checked items in the event you lose your clothes check ticket.

  • LOST AND FOUND. At most parties someone loses something. Be careful you've secured all of your things when you check in (don't leave your stuff in the changing area). If you realize you've left the party without one of your things, come back before the party ends if you can. The spaces we use for the parties see a lot of foot traffic, so the sooner you contact us the more likely you are to get your stuff back. Items such as socks, a pair of underwear or bottles of poppers are discarded at the end of the party. Umbrellas will be kept on a best-efforts basis. More significant and / or valuable items such as glasses, keys, wallets, passports, substantial clothing articles and the like will be kept safely for two weeks then discarded, unless the wallet has ID with address on it in which case it will be dropped in a USPS mailbox. The best way to contact us to retrieve lost items is e-mailing info@bearpartynyc.com.

Thank you for your cooperation.

 

 

Frequently Asked Questions

 

 

How many guys attend each party?

 

Our parties average 25-40 guys on a weekday and 40-60 on a weekend. Sometimes attendance exceeds averages, occasionally it is lower, but rarely is it below the bottom end of the ranges provided.

 

What time should I arrive? When do the parties end?

 

PLEASE ARRIVE AT THE BEGINNING OF THE PARTY. Arriving during the first hour is a good target. Door closure times listed above may be earlier if the party ends (everyone finishes and goes home), which happens often, so the closer to the beginning the better. As long as there are people still playing at the party we remain open to maximum stated times, however if there is just one person left we end the party.

 

What kind of guys attend the party?

 

We have over 20,000 members so each party will have different guys in attendance, covering  a wide range of physical types, sexual roles and ages -- from cubs / bear types in their late teens to mature daddies, skinny chasers to voluptuous superchubs. There should be guys there to suit every taste. We do not track and cannot offer any information concerning the appearance, sexual roles or interests of our members or the guys attending a specific party because every party is different and we don't talk about you to other people in accordance with our Privacy Policy. If you're interested in coming and having some fun, just go for it; and remember that having you there will make the party even better. Yes, as all of us reading this likely agree, more is usually better.

 

Do you provide condoms and lube?

Yes. We carry regular-sized condoms and water-based lube in packets. We try to stock large / gold condoms but can't guarantee their availability so if you have a big dick consider bringing a couple of the large ones.

What is your safe sex policy?

We do not monitor your behavior as it pertains to safe sex. Here's the bottom line: condoms and lube are provided and some use them, some don't. Many guys take PreP nowadays, so you will see some barebacking at the parties. We encourage you to know and understand the risks of sex without condoms and to protect yourself and your partner from the spread of infections. Ask the guy you're with what he's into and make an informed decision, just as you would in any other situation. We don't have the resources to enforce a condom-only policy and truly aren't able or interested in walking around with a flashlight checking in on groups of guys in the middle of a good time.

 

What are the advantages of attending a sex party?

  • You get to look before you touch. So many pictures out there are misleading, at best, and some of us don't photograph well, so it's a plus for everyone.

  • You get to see some really hot stuff.

  • No sharing your phone number, e-mail, pictures or address.

  • No hosting strangers in your house or going to a guy's house having no clue what to expect.

  • No spending hours online looking for a hook-up, sometimes without success. Just show up at the party time and find that we've done the work for you. While a sex party is not a sure thing, it's pretty close.

  • Meet guys that live far away whom you'd never hook up with due to distance. We advertise in NY, NJ, CT and PA and our party regularly draws guys visiting town from all over the world.

Do you have pictures of the parties or other members?

 

In accordance with our Privacy Policy we don't share information about other members and prohibit photography at the parties; therefore, we do not have pictures to show you.

 

What time do doors close?

We don't adhere to specific door closure times, but if you think you might show up later to see if anything is going on be prepared to find the crowd getting smaller or the party wrapping up or over. Earlier is better, we can't stress it enough.

What is the scene at the party? I'm a little nervous.

 

Many of our members have told us they've never been to a party like this and / or they feel nervous and our answer is always the same: the bear-cub-chub-chaser community is friendly and welcoming and our parties are always laid-back and attitude-free. Expect a large space of guys hanging around mostly or fully naked, dim lighting, quiet conversation, touching, sucking, fucking and other types of play. Come with a little patience and ready to hang out for a while before something interesting presents itself to you. Most of what takes place is out in the open; however, it is possible to find quieter corners if you prefer a bit more seclusion. We do not have private rooms. If you're a first-timer, give it a try. You only live once, right?

 

Can I come and get ****ed by 5 guys or live out my other fantasies?

 

Yes, that's what it's all about, right? A group environment can be a huge turn-on for many guys. It's sort of like being in a porno without the video evidence. If you have a fantasy, be outspoken about what you want and it will be more likely to happen. For example, if you want to be a total pig and do this or that to a couple or a bunch of guys, tell them (or everyone around you) that that's what you want and they, being men, will likely oblige. For your personal satisfaction and enjoyment during the party it's best to come without very specific expectations and a little flexibility.

 

Can I just watch?

 

Sure, if you're not ready to take the plunge or you just get turned on by watching then, by all means, come check things out and see how you feel. There's no pressure to play.

Do you screen attendees for age, physical appearance or other criteria?

No. Our parties proudly welcome all bears, daddies, cubs, chubs, superchubs, chasers, wolves, otters, pigs and any other guys who are 18 or older and fit to participate.  Nonetheless, it is a private party and in the interest of the enjoyment of the group we reserve to right to refuse entry to anyone for any reason; if we see that you are bothering other guests or disrupting the party we'll return your admission fee and politely ask you to leave. Please come sober enough, showered and wearing deodorant to avoid potential issues.

Will I be attacked by bears / chubs / chasers?

Only if you want to be. As you would expect, you may not be into every guy and that works both ways. If you're unsure, ask permission. If someone is doing something you don't like just say, "No, thanks," ask him to stop or gently move his hand away.

 

Is there anything to eat or drink at the party?

Soft drinks and/or water as well as chocolates and mints are available in the bar area. We don’t serve alcohol and do not allow BYOB.